By Tanya Maswaure

Recently I have found that every time I switch on my phone and look through websites about love and relationships, ‘love language’ has become a popular topic. What exactly is a love language?

For a relationship to be successful, it requires hard work. Once you get past the first phase of infatuation, often referred to as “the honeymoon phase”, reality begins to set in, and you begin to understand your partner better, whether or not they might be right for you.

“Philip was the sweetest man I had ever met. He was everything I wanted in a man. At last, I found my answered prayers, I thought. It was barely two months into our relationship that I realized I had made a mistake. Philip was a control freak. He wanted to know where I was at every second, he controlled my finance, monitored my life, and worst still, he hit me at any chance.” “I never thought this would happen to me. “Whenever I took up the courage to confront him, he would lock me up for days. He cut me off from my loved ones and friends. He finds fault with everybody else and why they were not good enough. “I am thankful that I left. It was not quite easy. But I ended the relationship, and I am glad I did,” explained Jovita, my neighbour.” Ideally, no one desires…

Wherever you go in Africa, more and more Black African women are choosing to date outside of their race. Reason’s may vary from “White men don’t cheat as much as black men”, “Black men find my success intimidating” or “A white man can offer me a better quality of life”.