Let’s imagine for just a bit that someone came to you and said, “You know, I like you. You seem to be a nice, caring and helpful person so I have a request to make: I am damaged because I just got out of an abusive relationship. It was quite a nerve-stretching experience; so naturally, I am not looking at getting into any serious relationship anytime soon – but I might one day. And when I think I am ready, it is safe to hope that you may be the first person I would consider.